Today, people get acquainted on the Internet at least than through common acquaintances. But sooner or later it comes time to meet live. How to understand that it is time to transform virtual relations into real ones, and what the first date should be? Psychologist Lisel Sharabi about this.
Services for dating at the peak of popularity. Here you can meet an interesting person and communicate with him, but real dates take place live. And the success of new relations largely depends on what will happen at the first meeting.
1. Be prepared for disappointments
At the first meeting, virtual acquaintances often seem less attractive to each other than they expected. This confirmed the study that I conducted
with my colleagues from the University of Illinois.
People tend to idealize a potential partner. They build assumptions based on information in the profile. But these data do not always correspond to reality. But let this not prevent you from continuing your acquaintance.
2. Do not tighten communication online
Another true way to form unrealistic expectations is to communicate too long to get to know each other better. Often, people have been conducting intimate conversations on the Internet for several months, but in the real world of chemistry there is no between them.
To display relationships in offline optimally 2-3 weeks after virtual acquaintance. By this moment it becomes clear whether it is worth continuing communication.
3. Be honest
Anonymity on the Internet has to embellish some details or keep silent about something. Try to treat the profile on the dating site as a contract. Let the information about you be positive, but realistic.
4. Do not make hasty conclusions
Many use online dating to search for the perfect partner. But they themselves do not know for sure which of the qualities they listed will be attractive when meeting with a real person.
For example, with a spontaneous acquaintance in transport or at a party, you will not measure the growth of a person. But in the profile you write: not lower than 180 cm. Understand which features are really important for you and which do not have much importance.
5. On the first date, go to the bar
Physical anthropologist Helen Fisher believes that on the first date it is enough to drink on a cocktail. So you will not spend a lot of time and money and take a closer look at each other. Millennials consider the invitation to dinner in a restaurant something inconsistent. Let everything be simple on the first date and you will save money for the second.
The Internet has made communication convenient and unrelenting, but do not get involved in virtuality. Only live communication will show whether a potential partner has a chance to become real.
